Anthony John Cave (3 May 1947 - 23 Jul 2017)

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Location
Bournemouth Crematorium Strouden Avenue Bournemouth BH8 9HX
Date
4th Aug 2017
Time
11am
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In loving memory of Anthony John Cave (Tony) who sadly passed away on 23rd July 2017. A much loved dad of Alex, Dan and Laura and granddad to Oliver, Erin, Finn, Reuben and Lyla.

Tony was born to parents Freda (Joan) and John in 1947 in Winchester UK and then spent some of his early childhood in Singapore. He returned to the UK for his formal education.

His sister Pam shared these memories of Tony and 'the early years':
Tony was my eldest brother in a family of six children. He was eight years older than me and I looked up to him especially after our dad died leaving Tony to take on the roll of 'head of the family', a huge weight to bear for a teenager.
He made us, as a family very proud- having come from humble beginnings and a real struggle for our mother, bringing up six children single handed. After his formal education he trained and qualified as an architect and went on to have a successful career.
Tony was a 'fun person to be around super 'cool' as they would say these days and very handsome' he had lots of friends and acquaintances, and ADORED football and Portsmouth FC all of his life.
One memory I shall never forget is when he purchased himself a 'canary yellow Lotus Elan -WOW, he had definitely arrived!!!!!
Another lasting memory is: he was always great to his mum-and she adored him too.

He went on to marry Sue and initially lived in Southampton with her, it was in Southampton that Alex, their first daughter was born. Shortly after they moved to Springfield Road, Verwood where Daniel and Laura soon came along.
The family had a great social life, and many friends in Verwood. As the children got older they stayed in Verwood and moved to Dewlands Road, where Tony lived until he separated and subsequently divorced from Sue. The family enjoyed many foreign holidays together and have lots of memories of these special times.
He went on to meet and spend some years with Barbara.
Unfortunately in his early fifties he was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease and at this time went full steam ahead with his ongoing desire to live life to the full!! He bought a flat in Bournemouth and lived between this property and Thailand, for around fifteen years. During this time he lived the ‘good life’ plenty of fine wines, gin and tonics and everything else on offer!!!! He battled hard to limit the impact the disease had on his life and sought to make every day count!
Unfortunately in 2012 he returned to the UK a different dad to the one we had previously known. He was often anxious and confused and struggled to undertake basic self-care needs. It became clear he was unable to live independently and in 2013 he was hospitalised and diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia. The following few years began a terrible journey for dad and us as his carers, which resulted in him, being placed in several care homes and hospital placements in a struggle to find somewhere suitable for his complex needs.

In March 2017 he moved to Fairmile Grange Nursing home and we were happy and confident to know he was well cared for in his final months. Whilst there he was also able to enjoy his beloved TV and Sky Sports again, a pleasure he was denied for so long in hospital.
Throughout these difficult last five years we will always be eternally gratefully that dad always knew who we were, and was able to recognise us…..even if he did tell us to B****r off often!
We can only hope now that wherever he is, he is laying on his sunlounger, with a G and T, and his suffering has ended.
Rest in Peace Dad love you always xxxx

Offline donation: Bru & Squiggs Harrison - Happy memories of a much loved friend donated in memory of Anthony
Alex Winter wrote

For my dear dad missing you so much love you always
Ali xx

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Offline donation: Eric & Diana Trim - Happy memories of years gone by. Remembering golf trips twice a year to Spain donated in memory of Anthony
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Barry & Peter Cave donated £60.34 in memory of Anthony

From brothers Barry (Canada) and Peter (China) we say goodbye to our big brother. Many happy memories and sacrifices from you and we all turned out OK, thank you so much. We are glad your torment is now over these last few years were not the "real Tony". We are in no doubt you are happy again Tone and free to fly so go for it bro' ! Until we meet again, take care and say hi to the gang, take care xx The Canada and China Cave clans.

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Matt Cave wrote

My ever lasting memory of Uncle Tony was when he attended Sonja and my wedding in Sydney, Australia. Always the networker, Sonjas family, which being Macedonian is on the large side, all commented about my fun Uncle Tony. The next day at the BBQ, Uncle Tony was there again in great form, usually with a circle of people around him. After that day, we shared a number of phone calls, mainly about rugby and football. He's a man I greatly admire and will sorely miss. Rest in Peace Uncle, Love Matt and your Sydney crew x

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Susan Cave donated £50 in memory of Anthony

We had some great times T.C. Thank you for our three amazing children you must be really proud of them.

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Sue Turnbull wrote

Rest in Peace Tony you. fought a hard battle with the support and love of your amazing family x I have lovely memories of days spent with my family at Tony'and Sues where we were always made so welcome x

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Tony needed a hat!

Tony needed a hat!

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  • Fun times with my dear brother in law when he visited us in Canada. I remember him as quite a charmer with a quick wit, he was happy to pose with his new hat. Always up for a challenge, when we were at work he decided to go out on Barry's bicycle. I wish I'd seen him riding on the

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Bonny Humphris wrote

Dear Tony,
I will always remember the good times you and Sue and John and I had in the Bull.
Your generosity and your sense of humor will be your legacy for me.Rest in peace now the suffering is over.Adieu Bonny x

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Peter Cave wrote

Until we meet as Dark Horses once again Bro !

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Peter Cave wrote

Until we meet as Dark Horses once again Bro !

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Mary Birch wrote

Treasured memories of Tony,a privilege to have know him,a kind caring man,always made us welcome when we payed a visit,loved his family and so kind to his mother. Rest in peace Tony

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  • Tony & Laura awaiting their Icecreams at the icecream Café in Crete one of the great adventures we all had together ~ Thank You Tony ~ Love Mat Skerrett x

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  • Me and my dad ????? x

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Bob Ferguson donated £50 in memory of Anthony

Tony was a dear friend and all who knew him would agree that he lived his life "his way".

I learnt a lot from him and will always be grateful for his friendship and the support he gave me through difficult times.

I will miss him, but I am sure his is in a better place.

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Tony Cave wrote

My Uncle Tony or 'Big Tony' as he was always known in our house, being named for Tony will forever help me to think of him every day, although even without sharing a name it would be hard to forget his love for life and quick wit, forever the life and soul of any family gathering, he will be sorely missed but always remembered with a smile and love.

All my love and thoughts are with Alex, Daniel, Laura and your families at this sad time.

Lot Of Love

Little Tony

AKA Bones... xxxx

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Tony Cave wrote

Uncle Tony or 'Big Tony' as he was always known in our house, being named after Tony will forever help me to think of him every day, although even without sharing a name it would be hard to forget his love for life and quick wit, forever the life and soul of any family gathering, he will be sorely missed but always remembered fondly.

All my love and thoughts are with Alex, Daniel, Laura and your families at this sad time.

Lot Of Love

Little Tony

AKA Bones... xxxx

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Tony Cave wrote

For Uncle Tony xxx

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Tony Cave wrote

Uncle Tony or 'Big Tony' as he was known to me! Being named after such a great man will always be a huge honour for me. A man with a huge love for life and the life and soul of many a party or family gathering, I'll miss that infectious laugh and quick humour!

Rest In Peace, Big Tone, I miss you...

Love always

Little Tone
(Bones)

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