Eulogy for my dad
I couldn't let today go by without saying a few words about my dad who was my hero for many years. And most of all, I'm sure he'd be expecting it. I can hear him say ......... Avril you know what you need to do lass!
My dad was a character in his own right ... a true gent and an absolute legend. One, who spoke his mind and didn't care who didn't like it!! If he had an opinion .... boy did you hear it. Some so inappropriate, in this day, to even repeat!! But a loving and caring man who hated to go to bed on a disagreement. This was really hard as at one point you were getting it in the neck and then he would ensure that you knew you were loved before bedtime. He was always first to apologise when he was in the wrong! But unfortunately that wasn't very often, especially when it came to me!!
All his life my dad was always punctual ..... that was his thing ..... he was never ever late. Just want to share one example of how this really embarrassed me!
My wedding day! Before we were due to get into the car he said firstly are you sure your doing the right thing? Once I'd convinced him that yeah I was!!!!! He said right we better get moving then ... although I accept punctuality is good ...... but when the bride turns up before the groom ... NOT. I'm not sure how many times we went round the block again and again. Reminding him that it was the bride's duty to be late. He said 'not my daughter'!!! It was so embarrassing when the Minister mentioned in his speech that this was the first time ever he'd had a bride turn up early for her wedding!!
My dad loved my mum so much and after she had a brain heamoridge when she was about 40 he was so over protective it was sometimes too much. But it was always out of the love he had for her and they were married for 56 years. Even up until he passed his last words were checking she was ok. He idolised him family and was so proud of everyone of us especially his grand children .... seeing them flourish and do well for themselves.
I'll always be thankful to dad, and mum, who looked after my kids Ryan and Emma when I went back to work. My dad taught them so much and again punctuality was introduced. He'd be up at the school gates at least 25 minutes before the bell in a certain car parking space, but not only sitting in the car but he'd be out waving to them as they walked down through the playground, whatever the weather. He once went into school when the teacher kept Ryan and the class behind every day for three days and made it quite clear that this wasn't happening again ..... not in his time!!
The last few years have been tough for us all trying to care for dad as his health declined. As a family we've lived together for 6 and a half years. We've had some great laugh and memories. Travelling back to South Africa, his favourite place where we have such a huge family but also to Inner and Outer Hebrides as well as cruising the Mediterranean. We had ups and downs but we got through them and as much as there were so many issues towards the end I'm sure we'll laugh at them all, in the days and months to come.
As much as this day hurts to say goodbye and we've spoken many times about how your life was to be cut short but your strength and fight went on for the last two years. Your now at peace and in gods hands so please dad try and behave!!!
There is one saying that will live on and that is "ONE FOR THE ROAD"!! This was your infamous saying after a few drams but the road at times was so long!!! There are so many people here today who have gone down that road with you not to remember getting to the end!! As a family we will continue that phrase and this afternoon we'll say one for the road later..... although it won't be as long as your road dad!!! Even towards the end as I slowly spooned liquid into your mouth out it came ...... one for the road ... in order to get some more!!!
I'm sure I'll miss the sound of your dullsit tones shouting Avril through the house!!!!!! When I moaned or complained and said what now dad you'd always say ...... You'll miss me when I'm gone!!! And I have to stand here and say yeah you're absolutely right again!!!
So rest in peace dad. Our whole family will miss you greatly but your spirit will live on in every single one of us.
Avril Xxx ❤️❤️❤️
Eulogy for my dad