Patrick Edward "Paddy" Sower (17 Apr 1936 - 3 May 2018)

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Location
Honor Oak Crematorium Brockley Way SE4 2LW
Date
29th May 2018
Time
3.15pm
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Location
Honor Oak Crematorium Brockley Way SE4 2LW
Date
29th May 2018
Time
3.15pm

Location
The Wood House 39 Sydenham Hill London SE26 6RS
Date
29th May 2018
Time
4.30pm

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In loving memory of Patrick Edward "Paddy" Sower who sadly passed away on 3rd May 2018

Teri Williford wrote

My heart is broken with the passing of Paddy. So many stories and so much laughter was ours on his annual trip to Lafayette La. I so wish we could have been there for the service. Please accept our heart felt condolences on your loss. He was much loved and is missed.

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  • I would like to thank you and Beau for looking after my dad when he was in the states, he always came home with great stories. He will be greatly missed by all.... Ann xxXxx

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Sophie Alder wrote

We all knew Paddy as a storyteller. Not just a run of the mill storyteller, each of his stories were a fantastic tale that could be retold in the most magnificent detail, and dated back to exact times and places. I think it is only fitting that now it is our turn to do the storytelling in classic Paddy style, and he can just sit back and listen.

My first story starts when Paddy was a child living back home in Dublin. On a typical cold and wet irish morning, Paddy and his Granny Wright went off to visit Granny Carol. Granny Carol had a great feast laid out and Paddy always told me that as soon as he saw the cakes sat on the table he felt like all his Christmases had come at once. Granny Carol cut Paddy the biggest slice of cake he had ever seen, just as Paddy was gearing him up to start the mammoth job of eating the cake, Granny Wright snatched the plate away, told Granny Carol that it was far too big for a little boy like Paddy and cut into an quarter of its original size! And here is where one of his much loved and over used jokes originates. When telling this story he would always say, ‘I remember that day like it was yesterday and we all know what a bloody horrible day yesterday was!’.


When he was a teenager Paddy decided that he would come to London to find work as a plumber and this set the foundations for his future as this is where he stayed for most of his life and set up home. I know for most people in this room that is a deeply welcomed decision because it means we all got to have such a special man in our lives. To my knowledge he came over when he was 17 and got a job instantly by telling the boss he was 18 and demanding double the wages he had been in earning in Ireland! To everyone that knows Paddy this stubbornness and determined attitude will not come as a surprise. In most cases it really was Paddy’s way or the high way!

Paddy was always known to me and my sister as the ‘best fixer’. No job was too small for Paddy and he was always more than willing to help others out when they needed it most.

As a child, I was always quite inquisitive or as Paddy used to call me, nosey! We were driving along one afternoon and I remember asking Paddy how old he was and he always used to say 39. I wasn’t satisfied by this answer and persisted that he tell me he real age on the promise that I’d never tell another person. Paddy decided to share that he was 60 and I was horrified that he really wasn’t 39! I promised to keep my word. We arrived home and within seconds I shared Paddy’s real age with anyone that would listen! He always joked that if you wanted a secret kept then don’t tell Sophie. I’m sorry for telling everyone here that you’re not really 39 Pad.



Once Paddy moved to the Isle of Wight he carried on working as a plumber and took up walking. Through this he made lots of great friends. Two of whom are here today and they are Sophie and Max.. We all know Paddy loved boxing, and he would often clench his fist and say ‘I’ll give you some of that’ much to Sophie’s disgust as this turned out to be a phrase he taught Max to say just as he was learning to speak!

Paddy was a charmer and at times dare I say it, a bit cheeky! He’s favourite phrase when trying to demonstrate his charm was ‘I have half a bed spare upstairs if you want it.’ Needless to say his offer was declined on many an occasion.

There are two things I am certain of knowing Paddy as well as I do and that was he loved having his family round him but he also liked his own company. When people would call to say there were going to visit him in the Isle of Wight he was say ‘Tell me the date and I’ll leave home that week!’ He loved having his family round him and I know how much having us all celebrate his 80th round Ann’s meant to him. He often told me it meant the world to him to see us all in one room and having fun.

In these last few years Paddy became a jetsetter. Every march, he would fly off to America to visit his friends Deidre and Beau. Deidre called me a few days ago and told me there was nobody in this world that has influenced her life the way Paddy had. This to me just gives you an example of what an extraordinary man he really was.

As a Granddad, he was the by far the best. There truly isn’t anyone who comes close in my eyes. You meant the world to a lot of people Pad and I’m eternally grateful you were a special part of my life. I know you had an impact on each and every one of us in this room in some way or another. One of life’s true Gentleman. On behalf of us all I want to thank you for the memories, I certainly have a life time full of them and I am honoured to be able to call myself your Grandaughter.

Sadly, every story has its ending. Except Paddy’s is a rare case. His story doesn’t end here today or on the 3rd May because we will always remember the bad jokes, the swearing (even though he was adamant he didn’t swear) and the memories he gave us all. His stories have become a part of each of us, they are part of our story. And so our responsibility is to keep on telling that story so the story of Paddy Sower our friend, brother, uncle, father and granddad, keeps growing in everyway possible.

In the words of Paddy for one final time: Good night, God bless. See you again. Please god.


All my love always. Sophie.

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Jackie Forbes wrote

R.I.P. Paddy Condolences from the McCormack family. My late Dad Pat was a great friend of Paddy's along with my Mam Maureen and family we have very fond memories of him.

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Paddy sharing his marvelous sense of humor with Smokey Guidry at the Ragin' Cajun Boxing Gym, in Lafayette, Louisiana, USA on April 17th, 2018

Paddy sharing his marvelous sense of humor with Smokey Guidry at the Ragin' Cajun Boxing Gym, in Lafayette, Louisiana, USA on April 17th, 2018

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Paddy's 82nd birthday celebration with the Williford's, and extended family, in Lafayette, Louisiana, USA

Paddy's 82nd birthday celebration with the Williford's, and extended family, in Lafayette, Louisiana, USA

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Paddy, as guest of honor, pictured with past and present professional boxers at the 2018 Louisiana Golden Gloves Championship tournament, last March.

Paddy, as guest of honor, pictured with past and present professional boxers at the 2018 Louisiana Golden Gloves Championship tournament, last March.

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Paddy with Beau Williford (front center) and members of the Ragin' Cajun Boxing Club, Louisiana, USA. We are all shocked and deeply saddened. R.I.P. Paddy.

Paddy with Beau Williford (front center) and members of the Ragin' Cajun Boxing Club, Louisiana, USA. We are all shocked and deeply saddened. R.I.P. Paddy.

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  • Thank you Deirdre for all the great photos you have put up, he was so proud of you and what you achieved in America, I know he loved his visits to you all and I would like to say thank you for making his trips so memorable.. Ann xxXxx

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My dad in his much younger days... Giving away his Mum at her wedding xxXxx

My dad in his much younger days... Giving away his Mum at her wedding xxXxx

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The Two Sower Brothers Paddy and Eddie.....RIP xxXxx

The Two Sower Brothers Paddy and Eddie.....RIP xxXxx

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Me and my dad at one of our many  Christmas parties xxXxx

Me and my dad at one of our many Christmas parties xxXxx

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Debbie and Terry Sycamore wrote

Hoping that the love and memories you have will see you through this sad time.
Thinking of you all with great fondness.
Debbie & Terry xxx

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Four generations.... Just five weeks ago.....

Four generations.... Just five weeks ago.....

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Maureen Sower and her family in Ireland Hewitt wrote

Maureen Sowers sisters Betty and Kathleen and Families are so sorry for your loss.We remember Paddy with fond memories Rest in Peace Paddy.

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Mehmet Arif wrote

Ann
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,
Love leaves a memory no one can steal.
All our love to you
Cherie

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  • Thank you Mehmet and Cherie xxXxx

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You made this happen! So thankful for all the memories we made, you will live on through them. xxxx

You made this happen! So thankful for all the memories we made, you will live on through them. xxxx

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Richie Sower wrote

To my grandad paddy on the day we put you to rest is the day my life begins, I truly believe you are watching over me on this day! I might not be there to say good bye but you will always live on in my memories and my heart, I’m so glad you got to me your great grandson and I’m proud to say you was my grandad have a nice time with nanny Betty love you very much your grandson Richie Oscar and Emma xx

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Marie Cheers wrote

My deepest sympathies goes out to all the Sower family. I'm so very sorry for your loss. RIP Paddy 😢 xx

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  • Thank you Cathy..... xxXxx ❤️❤️❤️

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Sonia Cant wrote

Dear Ann. So sorry to hear your sad new. Thinking of you all.
All our love Sonia Ray & family. Xxx

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  • Thank you Ray and Sonia xxXxx ❤️❤️❤️

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  • Thank you Ray and Sonia xxXxx ❤️❤️❤️

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