Eileen Holmes (16 Aug 1933 - 8 Jan 2019)

Funeral Service

Location
Bretby crematorium (Anglesey Chapel) Geary lane Burton on Trent DE15 0QE
Date
25th Jan 2019
Time
10am
Funeral Director
The Co-operative Funeralcare Burton on Trent

Eileen Holmes died after a long illness on Tuesday 8th Jan, she was with her son Ged and daughter in law Tina when she went and was very peaceful. Her husband Ray and son Colin and daughter in law Jannette along with her nephew David visited in the days before she went to ensure she was surround by those she loved at her end.

She was the much loved wife of Raymond and she brought up their two boys Ged and Colin in their bungalow in Stapenhill where she had many friends. Her grandchildren - Kenny, David, Cathy, Steven, Austin and Maddie will miss her very much.

We hope to celebrate her life during the service to be held at Bretby crematorium.

Patricia Higson wrote

So sorry hear of the passing of Eileen Remember with love to outings and singing we had together love to all the family.

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  • Lit a .candle for Eileen

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  • Thanks Pat. It seems so long since we saw you and Alan. I hope you are ok. Perhaps we can meet up soon. X

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Mandy Hallam wrote

I have lit a candle for Eileen to guide her on her way through her final journey and to bring comfort to her loved ones. 💖🕯️

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  • Thank you Mandy. It is comforting to know you are there for me x.

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  • A visit to the Trent to look at wild life.

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  • Watching the piglets at Berkeley Park.

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  • A picnic at the zoo on a nice sunny day.

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  • Out for lunch with Steven and Amy.

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  • A nice cup of tea and a nice smile.

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  • In a reflective mood looking through pictures of her grandchildren on her photo frame.

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  • In the Mulberry when Ste was our waiter.

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  • Berkeley Park garden centre. A fav place to go for an outing - here she is watching the brids of prey.

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  • A regular lunch outing with the

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  • Helping out on the sales stall for Stan's Pals. She was always supportive of everything we did.

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  • Singing in the band stand in Cannock to support the Alzheimers society.

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  • The event was in celebration of the Queen's birthday so we wore patriotic outfits.

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  • In her garden - a place she loved very much.

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  • With Maddie - her youngest grandchild, celebrating her wedding anniversary.

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  • The happy couple with their

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Tina Holmes wrote

Eileen Holmes was my mother in law and I have known her for over 25 years. During that time she became more like a mum to me. She suffered with dementia and had been in a care home for the last two years, before that I was her carer. The home is Charlotte James in Burton and the staff there have been incredible in their level of care and compassion . She has been unable to walk, stand or do even the most basic things for herself for most of her time there and they have made sure she was clean and comfortable and, at least in the early months, at times, happy as well. Despite their amazing level of care her quality of life has been shocking and has resulted in me strongly supporting the assisted dying movement.

Eileen was 86 years old and had been married to Ray for almost 59 years. She was mum to Ged and Colin who she cared for as a full time mum when they were kids while their dad was at work or off with the TA. She was a member of Burton Arts council, a leading light in the town’s women’s guild and musical director for STARS and Waterside Players. She loved music and could often be found playing the piano in her living room or in a local pub. She often entertained the regulars at The Grove and The Barley where Ray was a very devoted regular visitor.

Her children were the centre of her life and she adored them and when they in turn had children of their own she spent many happy hours with her grandchildren. Kenny and David, Cathy and Steven, Austin and Maddie, all will cherish happy memories of her life.

In her last years we had lots of good times visiting the zoo, going to garden centres, Garden King in Newhall was a particular favourite as they were so welcoming to us and coped well with her difficulties as she struggled with her illness. We spent many hours feeds in ducks alongside the Trent and also the rats and squirrels!

She came "dog walking" with my team and loved the dogs very much. Virgil was one of her special favourites and he loved to sit alongside her on a sunny day in the park where they loved the benches. Her favourite dog was Poppy who she became convinced was in fact her dog and when she died a photo of Poppy was with those of her grandchildren at her bedside.

When she went to Charlotte James she was, in the early months, visited by several dogs including Virgil and my own Tommy who loved to get in the bed with her. Sadly she became too weak for this kind of frolicking but she still had dog visitors right to the end as Bell was able visit during her last days and was a firm fav with the staff and other residents. Bell was even there in the room with us when she died.

I had a lot of support from the Alzheimer's society and visited Burton singing for the brain group with her weekly. We even went to Cannock with the group and sang in public on the bandstand where, despite the rain, a lovely crowd gave great encouragement. I cannot praise this group enough and our last outing, just over two years ago, was to Brook House to sing with the group and I have a precious photo of Mum singing her heart out at this meeting. I cannot thank this lovely group enough and hope they are all still singing. She loved her times with them.

I will miss her. I have missed her for the last two years and so have Ged, Colin, Netty, her grandchildren and their wives and girlfriends.

RIP mum, I am so sorry it took so long for you to say your final goodbye and I am pleased I was there with you at the very end x.

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Ruby Wedding - cutting the cake

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Smiling at Christmas...

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